REMEMBER TO FORGET!!!!
According to Neuro-science, our brain is not only complicated but also confusing as it often overlaps information. It automatically saves some and deletes some. Memory is a great gift from God to humanity, it helps us retain useful information and facilitates learning, but it can also become a curse to some people as they express the inability to forget past failures or scars. They brood over their bad past burying their better future.
Our inability to forget the past failures or hurts victimizes us and cripples our growth. Mark Twain, whose real name was Samuel Langhorne Clemens, rightly observed – The inability to forget is infinitely more devastating than the inability to remember.” In such situations, many of us want to cry out –”Who can erase my past?” We find ourselves searching for an eraser that can wipe out our haunting memories.
Bob Gass, the famous writer who contributed to “The Word for Today” – the magazine that had over one million copies in circulation then, writes, “Psychologists estimate that we spend 50% of our mental and emotional energy repressing painful memories.” We often hang on to our past and we drain ourselves emotionally. We are like a boat, which will be stuck up at the shore until it is fastened; we often fasten ourselves to the haunting memories from our past, which holds us from moving ahead.
The haunting memories might have been created either by the self, for some, or by others, as in the case of Chad Varga. In either case, the past should not control the present or the future. We should forgive and forget our past. Chad Vargo could forgive her mother who was a drug addict and her boy friend, who abused her in many ways. This all could happen because of his relation with Jesus Christ.
Jesus could do that because he himself was victimized. A king wanted to kill him when he was a toddler and his parents had to take him to Egypt as a refugee. When he was a young adult, he was often ridiculed as a child born out of wedlock. As a young man he was tortured, bruised and killed on a cross. Yet in all this he never committed sin (Hebrews 4. 15) and above all he forgave all of them (Luke 23. 34). Therefore he can understand all those who are victimized and he empowers them to forgive and forget. As high as the sky is above the earth, so great is his love for those who honor him. As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our sins from us. (Psalms 103. 11-12).
Jesus forgives and forgets therefore we can also forgive and forget. And like Joseph, who was sold by his brothers yet could forgive and accept them, we can also forgive, forget and agree that “You plotted evil against me, but God turned it into good, ….” (Genesis 50. 20)